H. Norman Schwarzkopf, US Army General

"You can't help someone get up a hill without getting closer to the top yourself."

At Work: Employee Holds Grudges Instead of Talking It Out

Lindsey Novak Q: I have been working in the same job for eight years. Last year, I overheard my supervisor tell her boss about me messing up some forms. Since then, I do what she tells me, but I ignore her. I should have known I couldn't trust her because she has told me things about other employees. She hired another woman, who talks about her husband and family life, and I don't care about it or want to hear it. So now I am ignoring both this new girl and my supervisor. I know they think I am anti-social, but I just want to come to work, do my job and go home. What do you think?

A: Calling you anti-social is extreme, but it sounds as if you have interpersonal communication problems. Socially rejecting people who upset you is an emotionally immature way of dealing with your feelings. First, your boss has the right to complain to her boss about mistakes in your work, though she should have done it in private. The question is whether she explained your mistakes to you and gave you a chance to correct them. Everyone makes occasional mistakes; it becomes a problem when the mistakes are costly or so often that it affects the overall performance quality. When your boss points out mistakes, you should show concern and say that you'll be more careful. Ignoring your boss is political suicide. People like to work with pleasant people, and your boss has the right to fire you if you show anger at having your work corrected. As for your new co-worker, politely tell her that you feel uncomfortable hearing such personal information because you are not a close friend. It's also not too late to start smiling and greeting people at work. You may find that it makes you happier, as well as those around you.

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Recruiter's Mistake Threatens Employee's Career

Q: I experienced something no one should go through. A recruiter saw my resume posted and forwarded it to my manager with a note that stated, "I came across this resume (recently). Let me know if you need a replacement." The recruiter never called me. The next day, the controller and the president questioned my stay with the company. This has jeopardized my career here. I contacted the recruiter's branch manager, who expressed her regrets but said the person was a top producer, and she excused his behavior. I think he should be fired for violating company ethics. Word spread about what happened to me, and other employees who had posted their resumes removed them or made them private, hindering their chances for other opportunities. How should I proceed?

A: Numerous people who like their jobs post resumes on job boards to keep abreast of other opportunities. It's interesting that these two executives don't realize that and expect total loyalty in a day when companies are not loyal. Talk to them about this common practice, but also tell them everything you love about the company and your job. If you cannot convince them -- and feel their trust in you has changed and hurt your future -- meet with an attorney about a possible lawsuit against the recruiter and his company. That will put a stop to this recruiter making such stupid and damaging mistakes.

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What is Easter

Easter is the most important religious feast in the Christian liturgical year. It is believed by the Christians to be the resurrection of Jesus, which Christians believe occurred on the third day after his crucifixion around AD 33. Many non-religious cultural elements have become part of the holiday, and those aspects are often celebrated by many Christians. Easter also refers to the season of the church year called Eastertide or the Easter Season. Traditionally the Easter Season lasted for the forty days from Easter Day until Ascension Day but now officially lasts for the fifty days until Pentecost. The first week of the Easter Season is known as Easter Week or the Octave of Easter. Easter is termed a moveable feast because it is not fixed in relation to the civil calendar. Easter falls at some point between late March and late April each year (early April to early May in Eastern Christianity), following the cycle of the moon. After several centuries of disagreement, all churches accepted the computation of the Alexandrian Church (now the Coptic Church) that Easter is the first Sunday after the first fourteenth day of the moon (the Paschal Full Moon) that is on or after the ecclesiastical vernal equinox. Easter is linked to the Jewish Passover not only for much of its symbolism but also for its position in the calendar. The Last Supper shared by Jesus and his disciples before his crucifixion is generally thought of as a Passover meal, based on the chronology in the Synoptic Gospels (Matthew 26:17; Mark 14:12; Luke 22:7). The Gospel of John, however, speaks of the Jewish elders not wanting to enter the hall of Pilate in order "that they might eat the Passover", implying that the Passover meal had not yet occurred (John 18:28; John 19:14). Thus, John places Christ's death at the time of the slaughter of the Passover lamb, which would put the Last Supper slightly before Passover, on 14 Nisan of the Bible's Hebrew calendar. According to The Catholic Encyclopedia, "In fact, the Jewish feast was taken over into the Christian Easter celebration." adapted from Wikipedia

"Nothing is better than Aleve." That advertising slogan for the popular pain reliever drew this response from one of my waggish readers: "Nothing is better than Aleve, so I take nothing."

We use and encounter ambiguous phrases and sentences like this every day, often without pausing to consider their dubious logic. Like the slogan for Aleve, many of them involve the expression of a negative sense, indicated by words such as "nothing," "aren't" and "don't."

Bruce Powell of Canton, Conn., for instance, wonders about this common holiday valediction: "If I don't see you, have a Merry Christmas." He writes, "Does that greeting apply only if I don't see you? What about if I do actually see you?" Of course, no one would ever say, "If I DO see you, DON'T have a Merry Christmas," but that's what seems to be implied.

Similarly, many people say, "I really miss not seeing you," which, when you think about it, really means the exact opposite of the intended meaning.

Another reader, K.L. Baldwin of Titusville, Pa., reports hearing characters on TV shows use sentences such as "It usually always does this" and "That often never happens." The adverbs seem to cancel each other out, of course. But the scary thing is, these sentences make an odd kind of sense.

They're similar to some of the baffling pronouncements attributed to Yogi Berra: "If the people don't want to come out to the park, nobody's going to stop them"; "It gets late early out there"; and "I really didn't say everything I said." Though technically these statements are illogical, we get the idea.

Such expressions fall into the category of idioms -- constructions that appear to violate some grammatical rule or cannot be understood based solely on the meanings of their individual words.

Children can sometimes expose the illogical nature of idioms by asking about their meanings. When my daughter, Allison, was about 5, for instance, I told her that one of her friends would be coming over "any minute." I thought she would be happy, but she was disappointed. She took "any minute" literally to mean at any random time -- a minute from now, or an hour from now.

A couple of years later, asking Allison about a recent conversation with a friend, I said, "What did Anna have to say?" Allison replied, "Anna didn't HAVE to say anything. She just said what she wanted to say."

But now that Allison is older, that often never happens.

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One of the interesting phenomena of nature is the giant sequoia tree, which is the largest living organism on earth, reaching into the heavens nearly 300 feet. One of them can produce enough lumber to build 35 five-room homes, and you can drive an automobile through the trunks of some.

Most of us would suspect that anything this size would have roots that would extend halfway to China, but such is not the case. Many of the roots are aboveground, and others extend only a few inches beneath the surface. Interestingly enough, you never will see a giant sequoia growing in isolation; they're always in groves. Their roots are intermingled with the roots of other giant sequoias, so each one draws strength from many others.

That's teamwork, which is the key to success in virtually every field of endeavor. Even superstar athletes need coaches and support people. Singers and dancers need choreographers, writers, musicians, managers and staffs. Any business, from the switchboard operator to the shipping department, must function as a team for maximum results.

As a child, I read a story of a father who called his six sons together and gave each of them a relatively small stick to break, which they easily did. Next, he took six sticks, wrapped a piece of cloth around them and asked the sons to break all six at the same time. They could not break the bundle, and the father said to them, "That's the way it is with our family. Individually, you have a limited amount of strength, but when all of you pull together, stay together and work together, you will be able to draw from one another's strength and collectively do much more."

Follow that philosophy with your team, whether the team is your family, an athletic team or a business.

story by Zig Ziglar

Valentine's Day started in the time of the Roman Empire. In ancient Rome, February 14th was a holiday to honour Juno. Juno was the Queen of the Roman Gods and Goddesses. The Romans also knew her as the Goddess of women and marriage. The following day, February 15th, began the Feast of Lupercalia.


The lives of young boys and girls were strictly separate. However, one of the customs of the young people was name drawing. On the eve of the festival of Lupercalia the names of Roman girls were written on slips of paper and placed into jars. Each young man would draw a girl's name from the jar and would then be partners for the duration of the festival with the girl whom he chose. Sometimes the pairing of the children lasted an entire year, and often, they would fall in love and would later marry.





Under the rule of Emperor Claudius II Rome was involved in many bloody and unpopular campaigns. Claudius the Cruel was having a difficult time getting soldiers to join his military leagues. He believed that the reason was that roman men did not want to leave their loves or families. As a result, Claudius cancelled all marriages and engagements in Rome. The good Saint Valentine was a priest at Rome in the days of Claudius II. He and Saint Marius aided the Christian martyrs and secretly married couples, and for this kind deed Saint Valentine was apprehended and dragged before the Prefect of Rome, who condemned him to be beaten to death with clubs and to have his head cut off. He suffered martyrdom on the 14th day of February, about the year 270. At that time it was the custom in Rome, a very ancient custom, indeed, to celebrate in the month of February the Lupercalia, feasts in honour of a heathen god. On these occasions, amidst a variety of pagan ceremonies, the names of young women were placed in a box, from which they were drawn by the men as chance directed.


The pastors of the early Christian Church in Rome endeavoured to do away with the pagan element in these feasts by substituting the names of saints for those of maidens. And as the Lupercalia began about the middle of February, the pastors appear to have chosen Saint Valentine's Day for the celebration of this new feaSt. So it seems that the custom of young men choosing maidens for valentines, or saints as patrons for the coming year, arose in this way.

Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward in the same direction.

-Antoine de Saint-Exupery


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